I do want to explain why we added this section.  A friend, who also happens to be a priest, looked at the site and suggested a section about forgiveness.

It seems that nearly every survivor comes to the point of whether to forgive or not.  I don't believe that forgiveness means forgetting and acting like the rape never occurred.  It means taking control of our lives and not allowing one individual to destroy us.  Aside from forgiving the rapist, one must come to a forgiveness of oneself in the sense that all of us tend to blame ourselves for being victimized.

Forgiving does not mean letting everything go unpunished.  I am still struggling with this myself, so I'm not going to pretend to know the answers.  I do know this:  I am taking my life back.  For me, creating this site with Dan and putting all the hours into researching facts has helped me to start my own journey of forgiveness.  At least, the forgiveness of myself.  I pray for help in forgiving "psycho."  I don't know when I'll get to that point.

If you have any suggestions, ideas or comments about forgiveness, please e-mail me.  I would love to hear from you.

Here is something I would like to leave you with:

"But he was pierced for our transgrassions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him and by his wounds we are healed."  Isaiah 53:5